Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
But nothing prepared us for this.
My daughter's first and favorite word was - lait. Not 'lai' like a punjabi kuddi or 'le' like a good hindi speaking child - but lait. Clear as crystal. And yes, she did mean 'milk'. She says waah, aaan, uh-uh-uh for different things but when its mealtime, its that one magic word - lait.
I now live in the uncertainty of whether I will be known as 'lait' all my life or if some day she will deign to call me 'mama'...at this point i will even settle for 'amma'(something i never thought i would agree to...but when you're in a corner...well!)..anything but lait. Heaven help us if she decides to study in France. I can just see it now. The 3 of us at a cafe by the Seine, Srikanth orders his cappuccino, Mihika settles on an espresso and then she turns to me and says, 'Lait, what will you have?'.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Have there been moments in your life, after baby, that you wanted a break. Just to do NOTHING? To chill and relax. To get some "me" time? I seem to want it every now and then. And, when I do not get it I get even more pissed off with myself. Being a mom is rewarding of course, but taxing and tiring nevertheless. I think we deserve breaks. But sadly we're the ones who are so connected to these lil ones that no one else seems to be able to take care of them as we would. Well, that is why we are their moms!!! But, I am always open to the idea of a few hours of free time. I don't think I can last beyond that ... my mind will start going back to Samvit and how he is and what he is doing if I stay too long from him! But I still want breaks.
Am I the only one feeling this way?? Am I wrong?
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Thought would write about something non-mommy related for a change today. After all we do have other roles to play than being a mom.
Its been 13 years since I left Sophia's - where I studied till that 10th. Long time.....makes me feel very old......but then oh yes I am old:(
Today some batch mates from my school got together to remember good ol times. And boy was it fun! I really pity all those people who had come to the restaurant to have a quiet lunch - we were one boisterous bunch of super excited gals. Spent the afternoon remembering all the things we did in school and the names we gave our teachers, the pranks we played and ofcourse bitching about some of our snotty class mates (bitching is our birth right as girls.......aint it?). All in all a very well spent day.
Why am I boring you with all this details? Well cause I thought it would be really nice to catch up with all of you too. I know we are all in various parts of the world. But we could organise something when you travel back to Bangalore and try and get as many people as possible....right! I mean where there is a will there is a way.
Hope that happens soon!!!!!
Friday, June 26, 2009
Don't fret. I think both Liz and Ramya have given you good pointers. As of now how many naps does Kyra (she loooks adorable in that pic btw) take during the day? At her age Samvit used to take about 3 naps. One mid morning (arnd 10am) for about 1/2 to 1 hr. Then at noon for about 2/2.5(around 2pm) hours and then another 1/2 hr (around 7pm). But like Liz said the naps drop down slowly. By 10/12 months the eve nap went off.
As of now he still has two naps. One in the morning, which I know he wont really need ... but I make him sleep so that he will have his food on time. So every morning (around 11/11:30 after a good warm bath) he sleeps for about half and hour and then I wake him up. That is because if I let him sleep mid morn then he will be up all day and then sleep in the evening which ruins his night sleep. So I wake him up in like 1/2 hr and then he sleeps again at noon for a good 2-3 hrs. The key here is like Liz said.. keeping then active and waking them up if required. Yes, it may sound horrible, esp. when you see them sleeping so soundly. But, that is the only other thing you can do to adjust their sleep patterns.
Getting a good night’s sleep can actually help you solve problems (and you thought “sleep on it” was just an expression). But the key is to get a good night's rest.....ah how I wish that was possible!!!!
The first few months when Kyra was born, was blissful. I was so happy about the fact that she would sleep 6-7 hrs at the stretch in the night and wake up just once for a feed. I would keep bragging to everyone whoever bothered to listen, about well behaved Kyra was and how she does not trouble her mother at all.
Well now she is more than making up for that. She is 7.5 months now and insists on waking up multiple times now. Everyone told us, that training her to sleep thru the night is a 3/4 day and sometimes at max a 10/12 day procedure. But now it is close to a month since we have been trying to make her sleep thru the night. I would put her to bed every night with a silent prayer, but all those have been unanswered so far. She now wakes up every 1.5 to 2 hrs to try her luck at getting some milk, needless to say that I wont give in to the demand. And would pat her back to sleep, only to be woken up again what seems like 10 mins. The very fact that she goes back to sleep when patted back, shows that she aint hungry and just wakes up out of habbit. I also make sure she goes to bed with a full stomach, enough to last her for atleast 6-7 hrs.
Most books and websites say that the baby would wake up for reassurance....but that aint the case for Kyra. She co-sleeps with my hubby and me on our bed. Thats project no. 3 - putting her to sleep on her own bed.
Read somewhere, that lack of sleep leads to weight gain....no wonder my trousers are a bit snug and the lazy ass that i am would not excercise and just wait and pray for a miracle to happen ;)
All you experienced mothers, please help with suggestiong, tricks to help Kyra sleep thru the night. Have loads of projects (2 and 3) lined up after the completion of this one. Wonder when that's going to happen though
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Just before I chatted with Deepti today about my frustrations on being a mom.. I had a high point in the day. Jaiden went first time potty today in the bathroom! In the two years of being a mom... I have never felt such great joy!! (sounds weird but true!) I literally felt I made an accomplishment as a parent.
Potty training is something I actually dread. Yes pampers are expensive, and that would save us some more money if our kids were potty trained early. I started training Jaiden around the same age as Samvit. I don't remember Jaiden crying when he sat on the seat.. but he never did the job. He wanted to get off the seat or play with the things in the bathroom and never would listen to what I was saying. there were times he got frustrated and then I decided ...ok he isn't ready. I did read somewhere.. I think it was babycenter.com that if your child shows discomfort or starts to cry and refuse to sit.. just let him go and stop the process of training for a couple of days and then start again. It could mean stopping for 1 week or 2 weeks or even more. Which is what I did. I stopped training him after the first couple of trials and i think didn't start again after couple of months. Again same issue and stopped again. One thing you don't want is your child to get scared of the potty. So moms... try not to yell and this is where we really need to be patient. The last thing you want is your child to be scared of the potty and not go at all and literally "shit in his/her pants". So take it easy and step by step. It is i think one of the most difficult tasks to do which is why i dread it!
Sooo now Jaiden is almost 2. and i need to get him trained. I have heard there are kids who get ready only by 3. That is disappointing to most of us, but the way i look at it is.. at 3..they understand more. So a 2 year old who takes 5-6 months to be trained .. a 3 year old might take just a couple of weeks. 3 is really late.. but if your kid isn't ready.. he isn't. Cant go beyond 3 though. Anyway I started with Jaiden again yesterday. so i put him there... sat with him for almost 20 minutes.. and nothing happened. So then i decided to get a diaper and when i came back to the bathroom ...he was peeing in the potty! I was thrilled. none of us expected it but I guess it just happened. So i congratulated him.. did a cheer and everything and the minute i put on his diaper .. he pooped ! So anyway i kept telling him.. no poopy in diaper. I went to this website http://www.pull-upspottyproject.com/ and just showed him and was trying to explain ok this is how you should do it. I don't think he wanted to listen.. so after a point he got bugged.
Today i did the same thing in the morning. After he ate i put him on the seat.. nothing happened. He was pretty reluctant today. and I tried again again after he had his lunch and we sat there for 15 minutes.. singing..playing with his toys..and in between telling him... " you have to poop in the bathroom. And then suddenly, it happened. We both looked at each other and i went yeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!! good job jaiden!!!! and then he went again... and i kept cheering and cheering till he finished! You should have seen the look on his face! He was sooo thrilled!!! I don't know if he understood... but i kept cheering and saying what a good job he has done and that made him so happy!
So we were happy today!! I don't know if the same thing is going to happen tomorrow... but atleast now he kind of knows how it feels to not go on his diaper. But i will keep trying. So deepti don't worry.. if samvit hates it now. if you have tried for some days...give him a break. start again next week.. and put him on the seat when you know he might go. I don't have any major tricks up my sleeve but I try to make jaiden sit there as long as he can (20 minutes). i think beyond that will be too frustrating.
So that's my story. Again.. Jaiden is not potty trained. It just happened that he went today. Not sure how it will go tomorrow.. but its a start!
Samvit is turning one and a half soon, and I thought I have had enough of diapers. Sometimes, I think it's so much better in India where they limit the use of diapers to a great extent. So, potty training just happens as an outcome of not using diapers. Out here, its like a life saver for stay-home moms (and not to mention cook, dhobi, cleaner, playmate, wife, etc. - all rolled into one). I personally think its a boon. Had there been no diapers, there would be no Deepti by now. Haha, look until what point we get in this parenting ride.
Anyway, all said and done. I decided I should start. I bought training pants and a soft potty seat (and said a silent prayer as I paid the bill for these things hoping that things will move smoothly). Boy, was I wrong!!! But, I guess its way to early to comment since I have just begun the "process". So, this afternoon I put the potty on our toilet seat and made my little man sit. And, the next instant there were wails and screams as if I had thrown him into the mouth of some sort of a blood...er, butt eating... dragon. So I simply took him off the seat and stashed him back in a fresh diaper and flushed away my hopes.
What do I want? A potty trained Samvit. That's what I want!! I'm looking for tips, tricks (and rewards) if you mommies please. Share your ideas (and success stories!!) and help me get this chapter over and done with.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Monday, June 22, 2009
After MCC, my parents told me to try and write my GRE exams so that I could have a chance at coming to the US to do my MS . Since the schools here have 4 years of their bachelors, I went to chennai to do a one year course and simultaneously studied for my gre exam. I will never write that exam again!!! Once that was done, I applied to schools here and got into a school in New Jersey for MS in CS. Not that I had this urge to come here.. but took it as a opportunity and decided to come to the US.
So I did my MS here then worked for a year in Atlanta. Got married in 2006 to my dear hubby whom i met in school here. And then we became parents. We have a wonderful son named Jaiden , who is going to turn 2 next month. What can I say about him.. apart from being curious, naughty, tactful, playful, notorious and looks like he is on a caffeine rush all the time.. he is simply adorable. He has a mind of his own that I fail to understand 90% of the time, and has a huuuugge loving heart.
As far as being a mom.. it is a roller coaster ride ( I hate roller coasters)!! From the day he was born till this moment... it is one continuous effort to be that one good parent. The past two years , I must say .. has been such a learning process and still haven't learnt enough. Apart from me screaming my head off to him for not listening or eating when he should , and having "wars" with him.. there are moments of great joy.. in his laughter... when he plays, when he took that first step, when he repeats a word that you just taught him , when suddenly he tries to sing that song that you have been singing to him for a long time and finally when he closes his eyes at the end of the day to only realize that he is an angel (Plus this whole roller coaster ride starts in the morning again)!.
I think I have written too much! ok ladies... that is my memory lane. I hope to read more about all of you and let me congratulate all the moms and to-be moms out there! oh yes...cannot forget the fathers.. Happy Father's Day to the fathers out there !
Friday, June 19, 2009
Still need ideas to get started?
Okay, here it comes. How about doing re-introductions?
So each of us puts up a post narrating what happened after the Final Exams of Final Year B.Sc 2001. Let's fill each other on everything that transcended from that point until now.
Get in the Game. Now!!
HOW TO DO IT?
How to Publish Your Post onto the Blog
Now that you have your content ready and saved, how do you get it up on the blog? Well, you have to publish it. Here is how you do that....
Editing Published Posts
DONE. DONE. DONE!!
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
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